Female Dominance, often abbreviated as “FemDom,” represents a unique relational style, characterized by a consensual power exchange or control transfer between partners.
It falls under the B.D.S.M. umbrella and at its core, conscious FemDom can exist as a standalone relationship or blended with a Female-Led Relationship (FLR).
FemDom — Dominance + Control.
The truth of the matter is that FemDom relationships, like the FLR counterpart, is a not modern invention. It has existed since the beginning of mankind. Yet, societal taboos oftentimes cast a shadow over it, leading to feelings of shame for those who are drawn to them.
FemDom is a type of non-conventional relationship dynamic that can manifest in a variety of forms, integrating elements of control and dominance to the extent of the agreement between the people involved.
This conscious style is usually referred to and shortened as being in a “dynamic” with or without the sexual or romance layer; often unequal. Making it versatile and adaptable to various preferences that could evolve.
The above holds as long as the person with the highest control is in charge and identifies as a woman.
Remember, the defining feature remains when the control and dominance are held by the woman within the relationship. This person is not only recognized but, in most cases, is also a vital component in shaping the functions of the connection, usually exclusive to the bedroom.
Exploring next the spectrum of styles, FemDom could also integrate the “Female-led relationship” fetish or kink, leading to the common misconception most of us have come to know.
However, this is not a fast rule either because they both could occur at the same time without compartmentalization. When this happens, we could say is an all-around everyday relationship.
It could also be described as the female being the Head of Household (HOH) if there is a live-in arrangement instead of the traditional role of a man being the decision-maker and with the final word. Some simplify this by equating it to a “reversal” of roles.
Different general styles fit most people. The most common styles are Mistress and slave, and Dominant and submissive.
A FemDom relationship style does not equal female supremacy per se, either. However, female supremacy can be a sub-style that works for many. It is all about how it works with those involved, and it simply defines the mechanics of it.
We can also find other different scenarios or sub-styles that people enjoy, such as the female being cruel and distant, or sensual and close. Part of those mechanics can also be the praises or degradation system.
Other common systems are rewards and punishments to enforce the premise of not being an equalitarian style relationship whenever the dominant considers it necessary.
While a FemDom relationship or dynamic might be seen as a fetish in itself, some other fetishes or kinks come into play that also enhance the premise. However, those are dependent on those involved, such as the worship of this ultimate controlling entity.
One of the beauties, for many about the practice of FemDom, lies in its flexibility because it does not necessarily have the long-term commitments or frameworks that a Female-led relationship may have. Such as being in a relationship escalator leading to cohabitation or marriage.
Whether it involves strict rules, rewards, or even a system of praise and degradation, each couple could shape their experience to fit their unique connection.
No matter how it works, it just works for many, and if you feel it’s right for you, you should give it a try because it can be as fulfilling as any other conventional relationship style.
Seek what feels right for you!
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Original Publishing Date: Oct 31, 2020 — Personal Opinion About FemDom
Last essay revision: January 21, 2025
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